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I shall be looking at Psychodynamic counselling which has its roots in the theories of Sigmund Freud. His studies focused on the belief that our emotions, thoughts and behaviour stem from the unacceptable thoughts from childhood which we allow to influence our current thinking. Consciously and unconsciously these repressed thoughts and feelings eventually can influence our lives manifesting as depression, fears and conflicts. He also identified three driving forces of the mind. The Id, this contains the instinctual drives and impulses that motivate our behaviour. The Ego, the rational, partly conscious part of the mind. The Super-ego the conscientious side of our mind, parental rules and taboos.
Also Person Centred counselling developed by Carl Rogers this deals with the ???here and now??? principle. It focuses on the personal relationship between a counsellor and his client, encouraging clients to explore and create positive change for themselves. You could say that the core theory is the tree trunk and the branches the different types of counselling branching off.
Both approaches to counselling use the core conditions, these are, UPR unconditional positive regard, Empathic understanding, Congruence. Together these three core conditions are believed to enable the client to develop and grow in their own way.
the core method of counselling can be applied to, helping someone who has experienced bereavement and are having problems moving through the stages of grief.
Using the guide lines of the BACP a counsellor strives to give a client a good standard of practice and care. These are a clear set of guidelines for the counsellor to follow and set a standard for all counsellors to work from. It protects ar monitoring. The BACP ethics for counselling include; Values, Principles and Personal moral qualities.
As the client has experienced bereavement I believe that using the Person Centred approach would be the best approach. This deals with the here and now and allows the client to explore their thoughts, emotions and feelings. Although grief is expressed in individual ways usually the client has intense feelings of helplessness.
???Counselling gets particularly necessary when the person experiencing the grief is so completely over whelmed and debilitated by their grief that their natural coping capabilities are lost. ??? (O??™Farrell 2001)
Often a client will need to talk and talk. They may feel unable to burden their family with anymore of their grief. Obviously the family is going through an equally emotional time so the client could feel guilty about upsetting them further. Sometimes having to hide their intense pain in the hope of saving those around them this burden. Thus the need for a counsellor. Creating a safe confidential non-judgemental, non-directive approach .As a basis for genuine understanding a counsellor engages in active listening. The client may feel that with a counsellor they have been given ???permission to talk??™ (A. Milne 2007). When everyone else expects them to be brave, getting over it. The main thing is just being there with the client, acknowledging and supporting them through their expressions of grief, listening, using reflecting skills and gently encouraging them to get in touch with and explore their feelings to help with actualizing the loss they have suffered. Using the core conditions Person Centred counselling skills are particularly important especially empathic responding. Clients are vulnerable when they hold on to deeply painful emotions, which is often what they do in their grief. The counsellor??™s ability to convey acceptance and to hold and contain the clients grief is all important. Trying to comprehend, as best as possible, the accurate meaning of what the client is experiencing in the very moment and communicating this to him. Attempting to put oneself in the client??™s internal frame of reference and to feel at one with him. Understanding his pain as he does. Building up a trust with the client, being real, congruent that you are present.
The process of grief is an individual journey, active listening provides the best guidelines as to where a client is in the grieving process. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross pioneered methods in support and counselling of personal trauma, grief and grieving, associated with death and dying. Her ideas, notably the five stages of grief model (denial, anger, bargaining, depression acceptance) helps to understand and deal with and counsel personal reaction to trauma. It is only a guide and people do not always experience all five ???grief cycle??™ stages. Some stages could be revisited, (E. Kubler-Ross 1969).
The first stage denial is a conscious or unconscious refusal to accept facts it is a defence mechanism and perfectly natural. This could also be linked to Freud??™s ???id, ego and super??“ego??™. The id, seeking to avoid pain or unpleasure. (S. Freud 1923).